Welcome to None for Me

None For Me began as a simple phrase.

A quiet decision.
A way of saying no without explanation.

Over time, it became something larger.

None For Me is a blog and growing community for people who are questioning their relationship with alcohol and looking for a different way forward. It exists for those who don’t quite fit inside traditional recovery models, especially people who have tried AA and walked away feeling misunderstood, unheard, or unconvinced.

This space is not anti-AA. It is simply honest about the fact that one size doesn’t fit everyone.

The symbol used for None For Me reflects that idea. It resembles a stop button, a square inside a circle. It is intentional. This work is not about pausing, moderating, or negotiating endlessly with something that no longer fits. It is about stopping and choosing differently. The shape also reflects what many people feel in traditional recovery spaces, like a square peg in a round hole. If you have ever sensed that the system wasn’t built for you, that feeling is taken seriously here.

None For Me extends the ideas and stories found in The View from a Windowless Basement, carrying them forward into an ongoing conversation about recovery, clarity, and rebuilding a life without alcohol. Where the book captures a moment, this work keeps moving.


A Practical, Personal Approach to Recovery

Recovery here is approached as a personal, practical process. There are no scripts to memorize and no labels required. Faith, therapy, science, discipline, and lived experience are all welcome at the table. What matters most is honesty and forward motion.

This is a place for people who want to stay sober, not just get sober. For those who value personal responsibility but also recognize the need for support. For people who believe recovery can be both serious and humane, structured but flexible.


What You’ll Find Here

None For Me is an ecosystem, not just a blog. Inside, you’ll find:

  • Personal recovery stories beyond the early days

  • Reflections on discipline, identity, and long-term sobriety

  • Alternative perspectives for people disillusioned with AA

  • Practical insight for navigating life without alcohol

  • A growing community built on respect, clarity, and agency

  • Quit Lit, a thoughtful approach to sobriety reading

  • The Recovery Menu, a curated exploration of alternative recovery paths


The Recovery Menu

The Recovery Menu highlights meaningful recovery programs and approaches that fall outside traditional, one-size-fits-all models.

This section exists because recovery is not a single road. Some people need structure. Others need purpose. Some find healing through faith, others through craft, service, physical work, or community. The Recovery Menu surfaces programs that prioritize dignity, skill-building, discipline, and long-term transformation.

Each feature is approached with care and respect, offering context rather than endorsement. The intent is to expand what recovery can look like, especially for people who know they need change but haven’t found a place where they truly fit.

The Recovery Menu extends the ideas first introduced in The View from a Windowless Basement, creating space for curiosity, exploration, and informed choice.


Quit Lit

Quit Lit is a dedicated space for engaging with sobriety literature through a critical, lived-experience lens.

This section includes reviews of well-known and lesser-known sobriety books, along with featured excerpts, reflections, and companion writing related to The View from a Windowless Basement. Rather than promoting a single doctrine or method, Quit Lit examines how different authors frame recovery, where those frameworks help, and where they fall short.

The goal is not to tell you what to believe, but to help you think clearly. Some books resonate deeply. Others provoke disagreement. Both reactions are valuable. Quit Lit exists for readers who want to explore sobriety thoughtfully, skeptically, and honestly, without being handed a script.


What This Is Not

None For Me is not a program.

It is not a cure.

It is not a promise of quick results.

It is a place to think clearly, speak honestly, and build a life that no longer requires numbing.

If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t belong in the rooms but still knew you needed change, you’re not alone.

None For Me is for you.


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